Can you be (in)different by nature?
That really depends, when the definition differs from one individual to another. To their perspective, you can be anything. The true core is how you feel about it and why.
There was one specific sentence that, once you read, you’re never the same person afterwards. Like a missing piece of a puzzle; trying to get it all done to look beautiful and so well – put, and once you add a piece so perfectly matched to where it belongs, the puzzle is never the same again. It makes so much more sense according to our logic while our emotion is conflicted as to how does it make it different.
“This is the funny thing about growing up. For years and years, everybody’s desperately afraid to be different in any way. And then, suddenly, almost over night, everybody wants to be different. And that is where we win”
– Mitchell (Modern Family)
This is where the episode was paused. Intoxicated from what I’ve heard, I stood there, mesmerized by the romantically brutal realization, that, the odd one out is the winner.
It’s funny when we try through our whole teenage years to be different in a ”cool” kind of way but also, not so different to actually scare the norm ” let’s fit in ”. I like calling it ”cool indifference”, because you’re trying to be different in order to be able to fit in a large group of people who actually look alike. And yet, you can’t seem to understand it back then, that this is exactly what makes you indifferent.
Now, the black sheep, the odd one out, is the person who won’t fit in, and would frequently be bullied for being different. Labeling them ” weirdos ” was the inevitable move, to be able to tell them apart, although I have a feeling that the labeling wasn’t so much to hurt someone’s feelings, we just needed that false security that we know with whom we’re dealing.
Back then, we couldn’t help but think that teenage years are the most important years of our lives, everything that’s happening is filled with (unnecessary) drama, and somehow, the importance of every issue is so huge and unbearable, that you don’t really know if you should laugh, or cry. One thing’s for sure; you’re desperately trying to prove that you’re different and secretly dreading the ”weirdo” label.
Yet, we wake up one day as adults who learned to see the world as it is and not as a place full of labels and pretentiousness that will have an expiration date. We wake up and we need to be different, we want to be the odd one out and subconsciously or not, we’re ”fighting” to become the label we tried to avoid at all costs, for so many years.
All of the sudden, we want to have a personality that’s standing out, something ours, to have a little more color from all the gray we see around every single day. Is it the rebel inside of us that won’t let us settle for an easy, convenient route?
Good for that little rebel then; for all we really need is to have our own personality without the feeling that we want to be accepted. Because the only thing that matters is if we accept ourselves for who we are. We are the ones who have to control what’s priority; our own opinion about ourselves or the opinion of others?
Ego + Acceptance sitting in the tree
…. K+I+S+S+I+N+G 🙂